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Every parent’s nightmare teen drug addiction. We all want the best for our kids and we want them to succeed but that is not always the case as drug use and abuse continue to rise, especially among children. Drug-related fatalities are on the rise as well, as dangerous drugs are becoming easier to get. Parents of children with addiction often bail their kids out of any trouble they get into because of the addiction. This is not always the best strategy as children will start to believe that no matter what they do, they will always get bailed out by their parents.Tough love is the term used to describe any act of parenting which results in the child experiencing some kind of negative emotions as part of a learning process and it’s usually very hard for parents to employ. Seeing our children suffer can be hard enough, but to put them through more suffering is often unthinkable. It’s never easy but tough love is usually the best solution; especially if parents truly love their children and don’t want to see them end up as another statistic in the failing fight against teen drug addiction.

Tough love can be administered in a variety of ways. One way is for parents to cut off financial support for a child that’s addicted. When someone is addicted, money is usually all they need to fulfill their addiction as drugs are so readily available and easy to obtain. Keeping up with the child’s activities and being more involved in their lives can help them find other ways to spend their time and also gives the parent more information on is going on in their child’s life.

Another way is for parents not to bail their children out of legal trouble. This enables the child to see that there are negative consequences for their actions and bad decisions. While most agree that jail is not an effective deterrent against drug addiction, it will show the child that they won’t always be bailed out of trouble and should make better decisions in the future.

Intervention is a popular form of tough love. This is when a group of family members and friends and sometimes medical or mental health professionals all come together and have a meeting with the addicted child. The child’s addiction is brought out and openly discussed as well as options and consequences the child may be facing. Usually the child is informed of the negative side of the addiction and attempts are made to get the child into school activities, sports or, depending on their age, a job. Something to keep their minds away from drugs.

Putting a child into rehab can be a very tough decision but should be considered if no other alternatives are working. Most rehabilitation centers treat the individual addiction and try to teach the children of the possible consequences of their addiction and how they can overcome them through better decision making. Tough love may not work for every child but it can save lives and should be considered as a possible solution by parents of a child with drug addiction problems.

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10 Comments

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

As much as it is tough love, its something that the parents need to do. I mean you want to keep your child healthy because not only for them selves but also because they are a reflection of you in the long run. This is your child and you want to be proud of them, but being addicted to drugs and your not doing anything to help them isn`t going to make you a good parent.

 

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

My sister has a son (now age 21) who is a drug addict. She has spent about $500,000 trying to help this kid to no avail. He’s already been through various rehabs including an expensive wilderness experience and court ordered programs. She bails him out of every situation and in my view enables his undesirable behavior. Her kid still lives at home, doesn’t attend college and doesn’t work. He’s gotten into plenty of legal trouble over the past few years. My sister constantly gives him $$$ for anything he desires and frankly he acts like a Little Prince. Truthfully, I find it disgusting. I understand she wants to “help” him and keep harm from coming his way, but I think some serious helpings of “tough love” would have been much better. I don’t feel he will ever change so long as the situation remains as it is. Why should be change? His every need is catered to. My sister has spent all her money now so a change is going to happen one way or another. I wonder what will happen?

 

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

Lila, your sister needs to get help. The co-addict often becomes just as sick as the addict and need to get help before there is any hope of helping their loved one. Enabling is not helping and it can help lead to the death of the addict. There are programs for families such as al-anon or they can work with a professional interventionist to help them see what they are doing and take a different course of action to help their loved one but first they have to help themselves. I cannot imagine a parents pain havinf to walk away from your child but sometimes its the only answer and can save the addicts life when the support is taken away.

 

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

My mom threw my brother out of the house (sorry… ASKED him to leave) and he was homeless for about a year. He worked hard, and was able to get off the drugs and pick himself up again. Usually this might not work to help someone, but my mom didn’t want to be part of his drug habits or help support it.

 

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

Parenting is not about giving only love and support. It is also about acting tough when required. Children should not take everything for granted. They should know their own responsibilities. Parents should deter from bailing them out.

 

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

Cutting off finances is a good way to teach children a lesson. Parents should be careful about finances from an early age. They should ask their children about their financial requirements and encourage them to make a budget and stick to it. Parents should be involved in a child’s life so that they know why he needs money and on what he is spending these.

 

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

Parents may not feel comfortable with the idea of tough love but it is the necessity of the time. Children who have taken to drugs needs to be given tough love so that they realize the consequences of their actions. In fact, parents should practice this at early ages so that the children grow up to be responsible

 

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

I agree with the above. Tough love is the only way that parents will encourage their kids to kick their addictions and to function in the real world. Coddling would just encourage them to keep abusing drugs. Tough love is the only answer.

 

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

Intervention is a good way to share feelings and help the child realize that he is loved. The family members and friends can come together and let the child share his feelings. They can provide him with support and encouragement.

 

AmyJuly 16, 2012 at 7:11 pm

Parents have to make their children realize that taking to drugs only provides momentary joy and brings immense sorrow in the future. They have to come strong with their children. No parents want to see their children get immersed in sorrows and pain. The parents have to come forward and do whatever to get the child out of the drug abuse.

 

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