In an excellent article by Tian Dayton on adult children of Alcoholics the syndrome or challenges of being an adult child are so clearly described. As an ACOA I was able to relate to the entire article and want to share it with our DRC audience. I struggled with intimate relationships at almost every level my entire life until due to my own alcoholism I entered AA and it was only through the 12 steps that I could find some of the root causes of my relationship problems. The relationship inventory in step 4 allowed me to see my patterns and identify where my damaged child was running the show and preventing me from having healthy relationship. Tian describes it so clearly much better than I could here is a link to the complete article.
You can read the full article here.
You can also view Tian’s videos on her You Tube Channel http://www.youtube.com/user/tiandaytonphd